Tuesday, February 16, 2010

Always Do What Is Appropriate, But What Is Appropriate?

How Buddhists Should Behave?

While many Buddhist are hesitant, some even loathe, to tell others how they should behave, or even to setup standards for themselves, Buddhism does give us some very strong guidelines. These are ways of behaving that skillfully use whatever is happening in our lives, good or bad, pleasant or unpleasant, to facilitate the ending of our dukkha. The six paramitas, are an obvious example of these guidelines.

These recommended ways of behaving are activities that weaken our bonds of attachment and that produce the clarity of mind needed for progress along the path. They are The Path, which in essence is just a list of skills worth mastering. They're our basic set of tools, so we will want to keep them handy and in good shape.

These guidelines aren’t speculative (which would be wrong view). Nor are they absolutes (again, wrong view). They are simply ways of behaving that minimize our dukkha and lead us to a life of peace and happiness.
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Some of these are, of course, the already mentions paramitas (Generosity, Morality, Patience, Diligent Effort, Meditation and Wisdom), the five precepts (No Killing, No Stealing, No Sexual Misconduct, No Lying, No Intoxicants), and the eight aspects of the Noble Eightfold Path (Right View, Right Intention, Right Speech, Right Action, Right Livelihood, Right Effort, Right Mindfulness and Right Concentration).

But here is another skillful means way of looking at the criteria for daily decision-making:


Always Act Appropriately

These can be used to guide our every decision:

1. Do no harm, then if possible
2. Be of benefit
3. If you can’t be of benefit, do nothing
4. Be morally upright (No killing, no stealing, no lying, no misuse of sexuality, no recreational drugs,etc) and follow the rules
5. Be meditative
6. Be wisdom-oreinted

Always Use Right Speech

Only speak when it will improve the silence.

1. Only speak when conditions suggest you should speak
2. Only speak when you have something to say that will be of benefit
3. Always speak in ways that can be heard
4. Only say it once
5. Never go on the battlefield; being of benefit isn’t about winning

Wrong speech, the Big Don'ts:
Harsh, mean-spirited or angry words
Falsehoods
Gossip and small talk
Belittling others to raise your own status


Default Mind-States

Whenever a negative mind-state arises, use Right Effort to replace it with one of these positive mind-states:

Generosity
Compassion and Lovingkindness
Patience
Humility and Modesty
Moral Restraint
Equanimity
Right Speech
Truthfulness
Dependability
Regret (When we act appropriately but the outcome is not beneficial, then we use regret, very gently, to remind us to try another tactic next time.)

2 comments:

  1. Practicing does not get any simpler or better than this. Thanks Carl!

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  2. I have a meeting tomorrow with a group of people I’m quite frustrated with at the moment. I cut and printed the section, “right Speech” to have in my notes for the meeting in order to help keep me on the middle path a bit more than the anger path.. Thanks for keeping me grounded
    Ken

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